I experience confidence myself most of the time. As a Psychologist, I practice so many things that contribute to this state. I’m not surprised anymore that I mostly feel pumped. That’s not to say that I never experience any other emotions. I feel a degree of nervousness, stress, or even a touch of dread on occasion. I can’t forget the dread. Initially, the only way out of this was through “pep talks.”
Before I even got out of bed in the morning, dread for the impending day was there, waiting for me. I had to remind myself that in the past, these types of feelings in the morning were contrasted by wonderful feelings in the evening. Even though that’s how things started, most of the day was actually very good. Once I talked myself through or past these negative feelings and engaged in my daily activities, those negative emotions were transformed into pure energy and excitement. By evening reflection, I reported to myself a super day.
Although those days woke me with fear, apprehension, and dread, I found a way to define them more optimistically. Altering my own definition seemed to make all the difference. Automatically, the mere thought of engaging in my own life brought fear and discomfort, but disengaging wasn’t the answer, for fear and discomfort stayed with me regardless.
More recently, I’ve been reminded that one more way to ensure that we feel confident is to expand our focus onto others, their situations, and aspirations. Concern ourselves with bolstering another. Assist them to redefine feelings of stress and anxiety themselves. Refocusing from real negative emotions onto potentially great feelings of self-confidence. When we take this sort of “leadership” approach, we are reminding ourselves of our own capabilities. Try it for yourself.